A Guest Post
We geezers know that sex isn’t always as, uh, smooth, as it once was. There are a slew of variables that come into play when the over-60 set wants to play. Between loss of a spouse, health conditions, mobility issues and other such factors, sex isn’t always the mind-blowing event we all want it to be.
But despite popular opinion, sex can be just as good, if not better than, as when we were at our “peak.” In fact, many older adults say their sex lives have improved as they’ve aged. With a little creativity and these five simple steps, all seniors can enjoy the best sex of their lives.
Communication is Key
As we’ve mentioned before, if you want to get your lovely lady into bed, it’s going to take some modern wooing. That includes your fair share of listening and talking to your significant other. While you may not consider yourself at the top of your game in this department, never fear. Good communication is a skill that can be learned, practiced, and improved. The more you and your partner talk—about your thoughts, fears, desires, feelings, erotic fantasies—the easier open conversation will become, and the better sex will be.
Erectile dysfunction (ED) plagues most men at some point during their lives, especially as we age. But that doesn’t mean you have to resign yourself to this mood-killing fate. Adam & Eve explains that if you want to decrease your chances of experiencing erectile problems, the best thing you can do is maintain a healthy lifestyle. This means eating a well-balanced diet, exercising regularly, and limiting alcohol, as well as kicking any tobacco habit you might have.
Appreciate Yourself (and Your Body)
Chances are, you look and feel a whole lot different than you did when you were younger. You’re not the first, and you certainly won’t be the last person to feel that way. After all, changes in your body are a natural part of aging, and they are something that you should be proud of. The sooner you accept you’re not physically the same as you once were—and embrace it—the more confidence you’ll exude, and the sexier you’ll feel and appear to others. Trust us, it won’t go unnoticed.
Try New Things
A fail-proof way to spice up your sex life, regardless of your age, is to change things up. This could mean exploring new desires and fantasies, but it also extends to simple shifts in your lovemaking routine. Healthline points out that sex doesn’t have to be an activity saved just for nighttime. Try early morning sex or some hanky-panky in the mid-afternoon. By switching up the time of day from the norm, you and your partner may find you both have more energy and staying power.
As a senior citizen, you may not be as comfortable with, or as interested in, certain sexual positions or activities. Tastes and preferences change all the time, and old age is no exception. Just because you don’t necessarily want to get down the same way you used to doesn’t mean you should give up sex entirely. Get creative. Experiment with different positions or try extending sexual play beyond the bedroom. Activities such as simply holding hands, touching, kissing, and sensual massage can all increase intimacy and spice up your love life.